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Getting serious about mindset is probably the most important thing you can do. I spent many years feeling so damn defeated that I avoided all things personal growth. Thank goodness, that by taking one leap of faith, it led me to the resources I so badly needed to finally wake up and see that there was a reason I was avoiding personal growth. I had been completely unaware that I was dealing with a narcissist and so, by trying what works in healthy relationships, I was only making things worse and doubting myself more.
Once I had the perspective I needed, it was liberating. Suddenly, amazing books and resources kept showing up for me and pushing me to see that things could change. My eyes also opened to the fact that I was never going to find success with an online business until I got down and dirty with my mindset. Pro tip: the more you convince yourself that you urgently need to learn this software and that new program or you are doomed to failure, the more you need to work on you FIRST. Very little of your online success will come down to learning fancy software.
This is my ultimate list of top mindset books and resources. When you decide to get real about going deep and about changing your life, you need to become a mental warrior. What I love about this list is that it will always be growing. What may not speak to you now, may be exactly what you need in the future. Some you may feel an automatic dislike of, or feel like it isn’t for you. Pro-tip number two: start with those. The books I was most against reading are the ones that hit me the hardest.
Mindset and Transformation Books
Claim Your Power: A 40-Day Journey to Dissolve the Hidden Trauma That’s Kept You Stuck and Finally Thrive in Your Life’s Unique Purpose
This is one of the books that I really had no interest in. I tend to stay away from sifting through my childhood and looking for connections to my present life. I was also resistant to the idea of finding my purpose. I guess I just felt like it was “been there, done that” and wanted something with more ZING.
But this book turned out to be a wonderful surprise. I appreciate that it takes things in small steps and requires action before moving on to the next step. (Raise your hand if you fly through books like this oooing and ahhing about all the lightbulbs going off, only to get the end and feel like you don’t know where to start to implement what you learned.)
The way it is written, it warms you up to actually cracking open your journal and doing the work. Silly as it sounds, it made me feel understood.
Anyone looking for transformation and empowerment should take 40 days to go through this book.
Oooooh! This book absolutely blew me away! It opened doors to a completely new way of seeing my life and the world. Completely unexpected. Someone had very gently recommended Dr. Joe to me when she saw I was “stuck.” I did an Amazon search and the book of his that she recommended was out of my price range, but Becoming Supernatural was on sale for Kindle.
The second I started reading, I was in awe. It is a mix of science, ancient wisdom, way out there concepts, and real life examples that will leave you KNOWING that anything is possible.
Dr. Joe tackles big topics in a way that allows you to understand and believe. There is practical action to take that will 100% have you feeling supernatural. This is the book that I attribute to giving me the mental kick I so badly needed when I felt that there were no answers out there for me.
So, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself was the book that had been recommended to me and put the name of Joe Dispenza on my radar. I would probably put this one ahead of Becoming Supernatural for really opening up your mind to a new way of thinking. I remember being on one of the first pages of this book and having to put the book down and fully digest what I had just read.
The really big mental warrior push I got from Breaking was the way to finally make visualizing/manifesting work for me. To finally have it clearly explained why all of “The Secret” type vision board work always seemed to bring me the opposite of what I “put out there” was empowering.
If you decide to dive into this book, I would highly suggest adding the guided meditations on as well. I will say, his meditations are a bit odd at first go, but they are incredibly powerful in the process of transformation. 100% recommended.
At first glance, this book may seem out of place here. But this is one of the most transformational books I know. Funny enough, I spent a couple of decades poo-pooing it and not even considering giving it a chance. One day, I put up a Facebook post asking for a life-changing book and someone I deeply admire told me Women was a MUST. So, I ordered it and then let it sit on my shelf for months without so much a glance at the front cover.
And one day, just so I could be more qualified to say how ridiculous it was, I started reading it. My mouth fell open. My skin got covered in goosebumps. My belly did flips. And I literally got up and danced around. Holy $%#! this book is amazing.
This may not be a necessary read for everyone. It came to me at just the right time, though. It is a bit of a dry read, but a lifeline for anyone drowning in anxiety or depression. The author absolutely sees you and “gets” you.
So much of what comes at you when you are depressed is pandering, tiring, just plain not helpful. This book is helpful. And it openly discusses why the depressed brain will fight against it every step of the way, but offers techniques to get you past it.
I will be quite honest that I am not a fan of traditional therapy. I find that it keeps people stuck and focused on being broken in some way. Yes, it’s good to talk things out, but you need to then go the next step and change your mind. This book is here for you.
I went back and forth about putting this one on my list because it did not give me the sucker punch of mental warrior power that the others did. But, by golly, I adore Brene Brown and devour every word she writes.
Daring Greatly is such a good read and it makes it feel like you are having a chat with a good and very smart, emotionally strong friend.
Vulnerability really is a superpower and, while this book may not be groundbreaking, it is a beautiful way to get yourself ready to start adding vulnerability to your life.
Mindset Books for Children and Teens
Oh how I adore these books. My kids are still a bit young to get all the lessons, but, by picking and choosing what we read, they have really enjoyed them and all three of us have gained a lot from them. Just Feel and Just Breathe have given us ways to deal with big feelings. I honestly think every child could benefit from learning mindfulness techniques. I discovered these after we had read Mallika’s father’s book, On My Way To A Happy Life dozens of times.
This is one of the newest additions to our Mental Warrior toolshelf. I spent the first 4+ decades of my life relishing negative thoughts and with a gift to complain about anything. Definitely wanted to NOT pass that on to my kids.
This simple little book shows how to turn a negative reaction into a positive one by a change in perspective. After the first read, both of my kids asked me to read it again. And then again. My daughter, 5, will now catch me if I focus on the negative and show me how I could say something different.
Online Groups and Resources
This may be one of the loveliest little corners of the internet. Aimee and Michelle have created a space that is so warm, welcoming, inspiring, mind-opening, and SAFE. I actually have only made it to one live session, but feel like I get everything I need and more from the recorded sessions. I feel like this is the place that finally gave me “permission” to stop following shoulds and to be open and loving toward my inner voice.
There is no one focus here. It is all about finding you. Getting rid of all that you carry around but doesn’t serve you. Getting real. Getting vulnerable. Doing things simply because they make YOU feel good. Following your instincts. Taking leaps of faith. Uncovering your genius. Sharing that genius with the world.
I absolutely positively recommend this group to any woman at any stage in life. There is now a way to purchase a “sample” so you can get a feel for what it is all about before making the full purchase. Learn more HERE.